When anxiety and worry keep returning
You may keep anticipating things that have not happened, or repeatedly checking to reduce anxiety. With Maeumi, explore what triggered the worry, what you expected, and what you did, one part at a time.
Three things to reflect on
- Write one sentence about a confirmed fact, such as 'There is still no reply to the message I sent this afternoon.'
- Separate your predictions and feelings from that fact. 'They must dislike me' may not be something you actually know.
- Consider whether you can resolve anything now. If so, choose one action. If you need to wait, choose something to do meanwhile. Notice whether repeated checking is increasing.
You could say this to Maeumi
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“When a reply is late, I keep checking whether I did something wrong. Instead of just being told it is fine, I want to separate what I know from what I am predicting.”
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